A woman got divorced quickly after only six months of marriage. She says she had been "dreading Oct. 4 for so long" because it wo...
The woman, whose name was Ashley, shared the now-famous video on October 1. She started by saying, "This weekend would have been my one-year wedding anniversary, but I am divorced." "I no longer have a husband."
She picked up a white bread box and asked, "Do you want to know what I do have?" "Our wedding cake's top tier." I found this in the freezer and almost cried or threw it away, but then I thought about my following. Ashley then ate a piece of the lemon raspberry cake and talked about some of the best parts of her wedding. She quickly clarified, "My memories don't have anything to do with my ex-husband." "My memories have to do with the details and the planning that went into the wedding 'cause I worked really hard on this wedding."
"The memories still bring a smile to my face, even though that date hurts," she claimed. She said that the fact that her "grammy" was her flower girl stood out. Ashley remembered, "She was a real hit at the ceremony. I knew she'd be a hoot and that the vibe would be funny."
There were clips and pictures in the movie of her grandmother riding her mobility scooter down the aisle and throwing flower petals as she went.
Ashley also talked about how her wedding planner had hidden the rings in a box under "a random chair" at the service. As soon as the minister made an announcement, people started looking under their chairs, which made for a fun moment.
"It ended up being one of my best friends in the entire world who [found the rings under her chair]," she said. Ashley also has a special memory of the wedding because she wrote a letter by hand for each of the 120 guests. "I spent 120 days before our wedding [on the project], and each night I would choose someone, sit down and really think about what they meant to me, how our stories led us to this moment." It was on video that she saw her loved ones open their letters, and "there were lots of tears."
Ashley's last memory was of her plan to give the wedding DJ a list of songs that each married pair would want to use for their first dance. "During dinner, I gave each couple a chance to go out on the dance floor and remember their first dance," she said. "Many of the couples later told me that the nostalgic dance moment "rekindled their love for each other in a different way."
Ashley told People that she chose to celebrate her wedding anniversary as a chance to remember the good times, even though her marriage didn't work out, because she wanted to "show future brides turned ex-wives that life can be hard, yet beautiful while healing." She also wanted to remember the day she planned with so much care and thought a year ago when she was hoping to be married.
"I decided to share my favourite memories of my wedding because every bride knows the work that goes into the special day, and I felt robbed of my experience in every sense," she says. "The husband was not mine." I forgot to post the pictures. Don't pass my dress down. There are no customs for my anniversary, and I don't even talk about my favourite day. Let me start by talking about a day that was important to me, even though the marriage didn't work out.
The thousands of nice and encouraging comments Ashley got on her popular video, which has been seen more than 8 million times, took her by surprise. "I didn't think so many people would be interested." It's been like 8 million people are giving me the biggest hug ever," The content creator from Las Vegas says she is "still actively healing" after her divorce and isn't ready to talk about what happened that caused her marriage to end "suddenly."
"It’s only been four months since I found out my life was blowing up, so a story time will come once I feel like I’m in a healthy headspace to share it," she says. For now, Ashley wants to encourage other women who are going through the same thing to be strong and stay true to themselves.
"My advice to new brides suddenly going through divorce is just to remember your worth and my favourite quote right now: 'The longer you stay on the wrong train, the harder it is to return home,'" she adds. "Each of us deserves a real, honest, and nice partner." The bare minimum is never good enough. Many people can relate to what you're going through; you're not alone!"