Someone on Reddit said that her boyfriend's mom "couldn't even look" at her after she defended using the nickname. A woma...
Someone on Reddit said that her boyfriend's mom "couldn't even look" at her after she defended using the nickname.
A woman wants help because she called her boyfriend "daddy" in front of his mother, who is now angry with her.
A 24-year-old Reddit user who went by the name "Am I the A------?" said that her boyfriend's mom heard her calling him her "personal favorite" nickname while they were cooking.
She sometimes calls her 28-year-old boyfriend "baby," "boobie," and "handsome," but the Reddit user who lives with her boyfriend's mother and husband said that his mother seemed "offended" by these nicknames.
"When we cook, we like to make it fun so it doesn’t feel like a chore," she wrote. "So, while we're cooking, we often listen to light music, dance, sing badly, and kiss each other every once in a while." Still, there is a small hole in the wall between the living room and kitchen. His mom was standing right next to that open wall and heard me call her son "daddy" while we were cooking.
Soon after the mother—who is known for being a "quite sarcastic lady"—made it clear that she was "dead serious," the girlfriend wrote.
"She looked at me funny because I didn't know she was there the whole time, and I told her, 'Daddy.'" The person on Reddit wrote, "She couldn't believe it and told me I should never call him that again." "Some might say I had the nerve to answer by asking, 'How is this any different from calling your husband papi around us?'" My boyfriend was shocked. I believe his dogs did too. At that point, she couldn't even look at me.
After that, the Reddit user said it had been two weeks since the event and her boyfriend had been "begging me to apologize to his mom."
I really don't understand how I'm wrong, though. She asked people on the website, "What would you do if you were me?"
A lot of people on Reddit replied. The most popular answer said, "We all know that word has a sexual connotation."
"YTA, you're the a-----." From the comments, I know that some people will vote me down and disagree with me. However, "That's not what anyone wants to hear," the person wrote. "Okay, go ahead if you're in your own home. That's not okay if you're at his mom's house, though.
"I don't know about your boyfriend's mom, but in Hispanic culture, 'papi' is often used as a greeting." "Sometimes it's sexual, but not always," they said. "That's a sweet thing that I've heard moms call their sons." That's what some people call their dogs too."
Someone else's parent replied on Reddit that they were sure their "son and his girlfriend call each other all kinds of things in private," but that wasn't okay in their house. "They are polite in my home," they wrote. "And answering her that way? "Wow, go grow up in your own home."
Redditors thought the OP was the "a------" in the case. Other comments said that "daddy" does "connote weird sexual creepy tones that Papi doesn't," and that the mother may not be using "papi" correctly because it "can be used between people in a friendly way."
"Calling a boyfriend who is not a father of your child 'Daddy' has a predominately sexual connotation, across orientations, whether you intend it or not, which is probably what she was reacting to," a user said. "Since you live with her it’s worth it to suck it up and apologize, there’s no reason you HAVE to him that around her, in her home."
Someone else told the OP that it is, in the end, the mother's house.
"If you move, you can call him anything you want. But I would NEVER call someone "daddy," "mommy," or anything else so personal in front of their MOTHER. Is it going to be the same as Paoli? Maybe. You and she can both be weird in your own homes, though. In your own home. "Call your male partner "daddy" if you're an adult, and some people will find it sexual, whether you like it or not," they wrote. "And [who] wants to hear that regarding their child."
"I'm sure she doesn't want you guys there. The dads have a place to live if it's my son and he's the dad. "They give shelter," they said in the end.